Have you heard the saying, “If you can’t take the heat, get out of the kitchen“?
It means if you cannot deal with the intensity of a situation, then run, to your nearest exit.
Intensity and heat… both words come to mind when I think about the Twin Flame dynamic. They are in fact, the essence within the very term itself: Twin Flame.
What comes to mind when I reflect on this term is two sets of fire. The element of fire is the pure creative force while, paradoxically, quite a destructive force that chemically alters whatever it consumes.
It denotes passion, drive…and also transmutation..and this is what these relationships serve to create at their highest level.
For many of us, the focus is on the romantic aspect of the relationship, and wanting to be in what we have come to perceive as a partnership, however, in doing so we miss the true purpose of these relationships.
They are an instrument of alchemy.
Alchemy is the process of transforming one substance into another through intensive heat. By subjecting the base metal to extreme temperatures, the dross, or impurities rise to the top. There they can be skimmed off so that the pure substance remains.
This is exactly what we experience within Sacred Partnerships. The other person in the relationship serves us by mirroring, and triggering us in all the places where we have forgotten who we truly are.
What gets handed back to us on silver platters are situations we “set up” that reveal to us where we have taken on the illusions of our collective, ancestral, and karmic programming about ourselves, that create barriers to Love, and perpetuate separation from our own Divinity, God, and others.
Where we sometimes miss it is in the belief that the primary purpose of these relationships is so we can have a romantic experience with another person with our typical 3D understanding of what that entails, which is never the point, though often a byproduct.
Our Twin Flame is an alchemist and an agent of change and transformation, and does this regardless of what form the relationship ultimately takes. In the fires of their very essence, our inner dross is forced to the surface for skimming off so that we can embody more of who we truly are, not what we have been programmed to believe that we are.
The intense anger, sorrow, abandonment, betrayal, hurt that surface in the dynamics of the relationship are an internal barometer, revealing the pain, hurt, sorrow, etc, that was already locked in our energy fields and subconscious. We often project this upon our Beloved, without realizing these wounds were there long before they showed up, and they are providing us with the opportunity to see exactly what it is that we are resonating with as our truth.
In the earlier days of my own Sacred Partnership, a couple of years ago, after another explosive exchange, I remember sitting out on the porch reflecting on the ego-fueled disagreement, and quite out of the blue the thought came up, “Why do I feel like I am having a relationship with my Father?”
My relationship with my Father was one of me continually being belittled and rejected, and needing to justify myself and make excuses to avoid further wrath from him, and this was showing up in my Union as well…and it was exhausting mentally, emotionally and energetically.
My guides began to reveal how my Inner Child had taken on the belief that this is what Masculine energy does, and this is how it is, and now I was drawing that back to myself through the mirror of my Beloved. I found that once I worked with clearing my Inner Child of the shame and self-rejection, that this began to shift in our relationship, as the dynamic minimized, or my reaction to it when it did come up was able to diffuse it over time.
We are truly creating our experiences through our beliefs, and the frequency we are vibrating with, and our Twin Flame Union serves to show us what we truly believe about ourselves and about Love.
It requires for us to be willing to be painfully honest and introspective with ourselves, and take responsibility for what we are creating, often on auto pilot, in our lives. It takes bravery to face our inner selves, and the default reaction is typically to blame the other party for everything that is happening. Or we just forsake the relationship and jump to another, only to repeat the same patterns we did not learn the first time around.
This is one reason why many Twin Flames do not move into full harmonization, because sometimes the intensity of the the fire is too much for one or both parties, and they chose to just “get out of the kitchen”.
Truly, the Twin Flame Journey is not for the faint of heart, nor for those who just want to have candle lit dinners and long walks on the beach with their “boo.” It takes courage and bravery to face ones inner dragons and demons and to know that all transformation begins within.
For many, particularly the parties we label as “runners” it is much easier to flee the fiery scene and just be with someone who feels “safe”, someone who doesn’t bring up the fears, insecurities, and unworthiness that the energy of the Sacred Partner does.
And we must learn to be alright with this, as it is never about the relationship and a white picket fence experience, as much as it is about a crossing of paths that was pre-orchestrated by both parties before even incarnating, to gift one another with a chance to break free from the illusions that separate us from our Core Truth and return to Love.
Sometimes upon initial connection with the Beloved, they are just not ready to handle that level of intensity.
Sometimes we are not either, but it has been initiated, whether we realize it or not.
We must hold compassion for the other party, realizing that the fire is not always a comfortable place to be, and hold space for them in Love, knowing we are all growing and evolving at our own pace, and everyone is exactly where they need to be, to learn what they need to learn.
We must be committed to our own inner process, allowing all change to happen from within, then without.
We must transcend our limited beliefs that if our Twin Flame is not physically present with us in a romantic relationship, as we know it, that we have failed in some way.
If our connection with them has served as a catalyst that has helped us to grow, evolve, learn, and become aware of our own “impurities”, in the larger scope of things, they have served us monumentally, and vice versa.
And this is true for any situation we manifest in our Most Excellent Journey.
Moving back into Union and into harmonization, largely depends on both parties willingness to “take the heat.” You and/or your Beloved may not be quite ready for that, and this is where we must find acceptance, and tend to our own fires (and toast marshmallows!), in trust, surrender, and commitment to our inner growth and evolution.
You can kick the temperature up a notch with Divine Alchemy, the first of the Angelic Soul Song Language of Light Musical Tracks/Activations. The transmissions in this track bring in transmuting fire to assist you in burning off what has come up for release with grace and ease, minimizing the need to draw challenging situations or a healing crisis to you.